To my merciless, brutal period: its time you and I talked | Emma Barnett

You got me out of swimming at school, and gifted me my son, but truly, I wont miss you when youre gone, says broadcaster Emma Barnett I am standing in a draughty, picturesque church on an icy Saturday in December, wearing four-inch gold glittery heels and silently cursing you as you churn up my insides without a thought for the occasion. Try as I might to focus on my friend, the gleamingly beautiful bride, and stand stoic during the hymns shes painstakingly chosen for us to chorus, all I can think is: will you please fuck off? And when can I rip off this fascinator, my heels, dress, tights and, while Im at it, my skin? The need for delicious …

Why dont doctors trust women? Because they dont know much about us | Gabrielle Jackson

The medical community have known for a century that women are living in constant pain. Theyve done nothing about it Its frustrating to have questions that dont get answered. Its altogether disturbing to find out that those questions havent even been asked. When I was diagnosed with endometriosis at age 23, I didnt know enough to ask the right questions. I assumed my gynaecologist had all the answers, and listened carefully to his thoughtful explanations. I thought I knew it all. Or at least that he knew it all. But I was wrong. It was only after more than a decade of feeling weak, second-rate, wimpy and affect at least 50 million US women alone. I discovered that some of …

Snowflake or tough cookie, youre just hiding from pain | Oliver Burkeman

A life in which nothing could hurt would be one in which nothing could matter We live, or so were constantly informed, in the era of the Sensitive Snowflake, the twentysomething university student who cant hear a vaguely challenging opinion without melting into a puddle of panic. I know Im supposed to dismiss this notion as a rightwing invention, but my reading of the evidence for example, in the recent book Of A Fragile Life and in an episode of the podcast This Is Not A Pipe Original Article : HERE ;

The science of addiction: a personal struggle to kick cocaine gives a neuroscientist unique insights

Having survived a decade of drink and drugs as a young woman, Professor Judith Grisel focused all her determination on writing a book about addiction When guardianbookshop.com

After a breakdown, birdwatching brought me friendship, escape and a new love of nature

A childhood hobby gave me time to reflect, refocus and find myself again, following years of drug and alcohol abuse A decade ago, aged 22 and off my face on class A drugs and alcohol almost every day, I would never have seen myself where I am today and definitely wouldnt have dreamed that Bird Therapy that birds are consistent in a way that people rarely are and I stand by this. Too often, we are let down by those we believe care about us, but I know that if I look out of my kitchen window, my garden bird community will still be there. I also know that during spring, our returning breeding birds will travel across desert and …

‘No food should be taboo’: how to tackle your child’s weight without giving them a complex

A third of children are overweight or obese by the time they leave primary school. Heres how parents can help them forge good habits and avoid creating lifelong insecurities Jusna Begum lives near the South Bank in London with her four children, aged between one and 11. When a health visitor told her that her three-year-old girl was on the chubby side, Begum was surprised. I didnt think she was at all; I had felt like my children werent eating enough. She did, however, accept an invitation to join a six-week healthy parenting programme called 2% of those aged five to one-third of children are overweight or obese by the time they leave primary school, yet many adults dont see …

Why are thirtysomethings lonely? Because society doesnt value friendship | Arwa Mahdawi

Social media has been made the scapegoat for millennials reporting loneliness, but the cultural primacy in adulthood of career and family has much to answer for, writes Arwa Mahdawi Millennials arent just the poorest generation; they are also the loneliest. According to data from YouGov, while digital habits undoubtedly affect mental health, research hasnt provided conclusive answers regarding the relationship between the two. When it comes to loneliness, I have a feeling that the culprit isnt so much technology as the fact that many millennials are in their 30s, which is a natural time for friendship dynamics to change: people start focusing on advancing their careers and building families rather than socialising with pals. It feels as if we are …

Duchess of Sussex to guest edit September UK Vogue issue

Meghan curated edition about Forces for Change focusing on inspiring women Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, has been revealed as British Vogues guest editor of what is considered the magazines most important issue of the year, the September edition. The duchess was invited to oversee the edition by the titles editor-in-chief, Edward Enninful, who said she turned down the opportunity to appear on the cover because she felt it would be boastful. Instead, the front of the magazine will feature 15 women who are trailblazing changemakers, united by their fearlessness in breaking barriers, according to Buckingham Palace. In keeping with the editions theme, which is forces for change, the duchess has assembled women including the actor Jane Fonda, the climate change …

100m bacteria a day keep the doctor away, apple research suggests

Study finds organic apples have more diverse and balanced bacterial community The impact of an apple a day in keeping the doctor away may be partly down to the beneficial bacteria it carries and their subsequent colonisation of your gut, according to scientists. A study has found that a typical apple carries more than 100m bacteria. Some of these microbes are important in maintaining a published in the journal Frontiers in Microbiology.

Adventuring while female: why the relationship women have with nature matters

Going camping alone, I was reminded that the great works of environmentalist female writers are often overlooked and its our loss Its Monday in the Adirondack state park. Im driving through little towns, passing junk stores, lumber businesses, small cafes and adventure outfitters. I have heard people call this part of New York state poverty with a view. The Adirondacks are a collision of hardship and wealth, but mostly wilderness. Six million acres of it. Its almost LaBastille Day, and to celebrate, Im going to camp alone for the first time in my life. Dr Anne LaBastille was, in her words, a part-time hermit. She died 1 July 2011, and her last name calls to Bastille Day, a celebration of …

Jessica Biel denies she is an anti-vaxxer after opposing California vaccination law

The actor said she was not against vaccinations despite joining prominent anti-vaxxer Robert Kennedy Jr in opposition to a bill intended to reduce medical exemptions Jessica Biel denied suggestions she was a supporter of the anti-vaccination movement after spending the day lobbying lawmakers in the US with advocate Robert F Kennedy Jr. After news emerged of her opposition to a vaccine bill which seeks to limit medical exemptions in California and make it more difficult for parents to bypass the rules requiring children to be vaccinated before enrolling in school, Biel wrote on social media: I am not against vaccinations I support children getting vaccinations and I also support families having the right to make educated medical decisions for their …

Tony Gum’s best photograph: the emotional toll of abortion

Women need to be equipped for how gruelling an abortion can be. It does mess with your mind. I was trying to put myself back together again This image, Sweet Saboteur, was inspired by a painting I did last November, during a particularly difficult time in my life. The year before, I had fallen pregnant and, unable to keep the baby, I had had an Free da Gum (2016), was much sweeter, sincere, young and bright. But then going through life and experiencing things and having relationships and falling out of them, and going through the termination itself, and dealing with the fallout that all resulted in this darker, grungier, bolder work. Here, I wanted to give the viewer a …

Fit in my 40s: I love parkour, but running at walls is even harder than it looks | Zoe Williams

Anything that is too high to vault, you have to approach with a cat leap Andy Pearson, the founder of London Parkour, maintains that anyone can do parkour if they want to enough. I have always seen it somewhat differently, as a kind of street version of Cirque du Soleil, suitable for only the skinniest kid with a death wish. Walking towards a cul-de-sac full of low walls, I am disbelieving. Even someone carrying a lot of extra weight? Yes, as long as you start with what they are able to do safely. Even the strongest man on Earth? Yes, as long as you allow for his muscle ratio. We come to some walls. Pearson wants to start with focus …

Danielle Steel is a prolific writer, but is that to be envied? | Oliver Burkeman

Working all the time, shes written 179 books. But compulsive productivity has a flip side The novelist Danielle Steel has written 179 books, releasing them at the rate of seven a year and for all I know, shell have released a few more in the days between my writing this column and you reading it. But how? In an she works all the time. No, I mean, all the time: for at least 20 hours a day, with a full 24-hour day a few times a month, and one weeks holiday per year. I know the question youre about to ask, and the answer is: like Margaret Thatcher. I dont get to bed until Im so tired I could sleep …

Astrology superstar Susan Miller: ‘I can really respond to people online’

Astrologer Susan Miller has 17m followers, a figure set to double this year. So how has she made the ancient pseudo-science of fortune-telling a world-wide phenomenon? If youre not one of the 17 million readers of Cameron Diaz, who allegedly consulted her for advice before buying a house, Justin Theroux, Pharrell Williams and Alexa Chung. Miller clearly enjoys the reach and power of her online predictions. It makes me feel accomplished and I am grateful that people hand their hearts to me, she says. But ask Miller the real reason she believes she appeals to a younger generation and she insists its not completely down to her. The internet. Thats what has made astrology so popular, she says. In the …

Six people who prove capitalism is broken in America

Over the last few years, the Guardian talked to many people for whom capitalism isnt working here are a few of their stories Work hard, get paid, thrive. Thats the way the system is supposed to work. If youre not thriving, according to this logic, youre simply not working hard enough. But thats not the reality many people live, even in wealthy, industrialized nations like the United States. For many Americans, long hours and unrelenting dedication to their job are not enough to save them from homelessness, debt, and other humiliations. In 2018, the worlds richest 2,200 billionaires saw a 12% increase in wealth, cornflakes and, on the other, the many employees of billion-dollar companies who struggle to pay rent. …